After watching “The Sisterhood of The Traveling Pants” for the first time in years, one of the girls had said that it is easier to get mad at the people who are closest to us because we know that they love us, and as such, we don’t fear that we will lose them. I can relate. At least for me, I have realized that it is easier to get mad at the people closest to us because we know that they won’t go away. But sometimes, we don’t acknowledge that we may be feeling other emotions, or maybe we are not even feeling mad, and we end up lashing out at them. However, the moment we realize that someone close to us, maybe not someone we share our genuine emotions with, but we do share a lot with them, end up hurting us, and we don’t know how to tell them because we feel that they won’t listen to us, we end up taking it out on another person - the person closest to us. This hurt or negative emotion can lead to us feeling, in a way, doubtful and if it was truly our fault. As a result, we go back to the person we do express our emotions to and take it out on them, and the hurt that was put on us is now passed onto the other person. If we don’t take responsibility and apologize for that hurt, it can even become a domino effect or even a ping pong match with that same person. The people we love and the people who are closest to us are those who we should not hurt and are those who we should talk to and not lash out at. When I say talk, I mean explain; explain the hurt and the emotion you are feeling. Use words. And if that person who loves you is there for you, they will listen. Think of telling the person that hurt you that they hurt you. So next time you are thinking of reacting this way, stop for a moment and think about the other ways you can respond and the consequences that come afterwards.
Z.
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