We are so drawn to the idea of always being happy that when we decide to feel our emotions, we feel guilty about them. I know I have been talking about suppressed emotions a lot, but it’s come upon me recently that dealing with our feelings and overthinking habits may be a bit harder than we would like. I read all these books and have people tell me that you can shift your mindset from one day to the next if you change your perspective. However, I believe that is an exaggeration because we can deal with one thing at a certain time, and the next, we may face something else. And I think every situation we face or any problem we encounter has a different yet similar reaction. Let me explain… How we react to family problems may not be the same as the stress we have with finishing an assignment for school. Or maybe our health habits have one effect on us while our friendships have another. All these categories cannot be put into one box, and it is up to us to decide how we separate them and deal with each of them. And I remember reading a book once which said: we all have these different tubes that we fill up with different parts of our life - whether it be relationships, family, academics, career, etc. And some tubes may be filled up more than others, depending on where and what we are doing in life. It’s finding a balance between all these tubes in our life that will affect how we feel and live our lives.
What I got from this is the importance of categorizing. We can’t put everything into one box because we may feel overwhelmed. If we want to feel 100%, we can’t just assume that if one thing is great, another will be as well; but there is a chance that one may affect the other. We all have something great in our life that is happening, and we also may have something that isn’t so wonderful. But it is being able to focus on what makes us feel good when facing something challenging that will allow us to balance our emotions.
So, if we feel like we are going through something, it is okay to feel those emotions because even if our life may seem great to others, we question why we are sad. Let them think whatever it is because we may have an empty tube that is not filled up at the moment, and it is okay. It is okay to want just to feel empty for a while. You are not a victim if you deal with your emotions and decide to feel them. But you have to choose to find a way for it not to affect the other tubes in your life because you want the good to fill up the bad, not the other way around.
Z.
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