We limit our love based on the bias and prejudice of how it should be shown based on how and what we have seen. We focus so much on knowing if the other person knows how much we love them and focus too much on the measurement rather than the actual feeling. We try and say or do things to constantly prove that we are capable of love, but we have to question if we do that for it to be recognized or because we genuinely want to express it. And here’s the thing, we are so concerned about what other people say or think about us, that we don’t allow ourselves to be. We fixate on the comparisons if we are doing things in the right way or not, or if we are in the right direction and making the right decisions. But these comparisons are false expectations that we place on ourselves to measure how far along we are based on the life someone else is living. We are so closed off to being ourselves that we allow others to guide us and tell us what to do and not to do, which is mainly reflected in love. We cannot control how we feel, but we can control how we react to the emotion. However, love is the most inexplicable emotion that can be shown in multiple ways, yet we all feel it. But because each person loves differently, we cannot expect someone to be narrowed down to having or not a form of love language. The labels we place on who we are and how we do things limit us from being more of what we are and discovering who we can be. But love cannot be measured or compared, it can only be felt, shared, and received. But one must be open to experiencing this emotion, and not be convinced that one should do it a certain way. Love is not a noun, a label or an action. Love is just a word we use to express all of what we feel in a genuine and pure form. We love for who people are, not for what they can give. We love people for what they can teach, not for what you can lecture on them for. You love because you want to share, not because you want to take away. But to love purely and genuinely we must unmask ourselves from the versions we have allowed ourselves to create so we can love based on what we have compared and expected. We must permit ourselves to open up to this concept or idea rather than limit ourselves to assuming that there is only one way to love. We must stop allowing other people to dictate our lives and be influenced by what others say because their lives are independent of ours. So give yourself a chance to love in the way you know how, and be the version of yourself that you know how to be, and stop allowing yourself to change for others (no matter who they are).
Z.
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