I guess I can start with the most important side that comes to mind when thinking about trust. I believe that trusting others begins with trusting yourself. I think if we mistrust someone for doing something, it is because we wouldn’t trust ourselves to do it.
This thought came to mind while I was at work, and it got me thinking about how many times it has crossed my mind that I wouldn’t do something because I didn’t trust myself enough to be able to do it. But, when others do it, I would sometimes pity myself for questioning who I am. It ended up in a loophole of thoughts. And I don’t know if you remember one of the articles I wrote about the domino effect of thoughts and emotions. When we start with one emotion and end up spiralling and feeling the extreme side of it—for instance, feeling sad and ending up being depressed or even angry. Or you were maybe feeling calm and ending up feeling excited and pure happiness.
But going back to trust. I feel that trust is mainly related to hope, doubt or even jealousy. I think it is related to doubt because we feel uncertain that something may not turn out the way we expect when it comes to external situations. But then there is a doubt about ourselves and not believing that we can do something in the way we would’ve hoped. Because we were already subconsciously programming our minds to act in the way we didn’t want to - like an affirmation guiding us towards what we least desire and constantly being in the negative perspective of a situation. When I say jealousy, I think we can see this in relationships. When we stop trusting someone, it is because we may also be losing interest in a person. And I am not saying that trust cannot be restored. Still, when you start questioning somebody else's actions, I think it is because we begin internalizing the situation and making assumptions that we would probably do the same. And if that is the case, then we have to start working towards accepting the fact that jealousy is simply the actions that we are willing to do but don’t want others to (that’s just a thought).
On that note, I want to say that trust can only be present for external situations when we detach ourselves from the outcome, stop expecting specific things, and allow things to unfold as they should. But this also begins with trusting yourself to be strong enough to face and overcome any outcome that comes your way. And maybe you can start building that trust with yourself by looking back and reminiscing on all the things that have occurred and you still being alive and present. And even though sometimes it is hard to do that, it may be necessary to look at yourself in the mirror and smile, to allow yourself to trust yourself in any situation you’ve been in because of the hope you’ve had that things will turn out as they should. And that in itself is trusting who you are and the strength you have.
Z.
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