Scars

We know we should heal wounds, but what about the mark we are left with afterward?

I think the best example of this in our life is trauma. As I see it, trauma is an experience or moment in life that we went through that has left us with a wound and needs time to heal. However, even if it is healed, there is still a scar, which is a reminder of that experience.

I think it is time that I start opening up about my scars, but it’s hard. We want to believe that we are already healed, and before we know it, we make a move, and it is opened once again. As International Women’s Day was a few days ago, and many women started speaking up about their experiences, I remembered some of mine. I have been in three different scenarios with three different people who have similarly harmed me and have created this fear within me. Even if I have worked on those experiences, the images have yet to be blurred out, and that wound still needs healing.

However, the thing with trauma is the unhealed wound that we don’t give enough care and attention to heal and become a scar or even fade away just enough to barely see it. Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard as hell trying to heal something that you had no control over, and even more, if you felt guilty or the cause and out of control in that situation. But be kind to yourself because those scars are a reminder of how far you’ve come and of your healing process. They are also a reminder of how strong you were for getting through that moment, for still being here, and being patient enough to know that you will be okay. Because even if we sometimes deny it, time is truly a tool that helps us heal; another is love. So, apart from being patient, give yourself the love you deserve. Please give yourself a hug and a reminder that you are still here, and your scars are part of your growth and part of you, so don’t resent them or hide them; embrace them.

Z.