You know when you give so much love but find it hard to receive?
If I am being honest, I find it hard as well. I am someone who likes to give and who likes to share; some people may consider this type of personality to be an empath. An empath is someone who gives so much to those in need and feels more than others for the simple reason that they are at the disposal of other people. I am explaining it in the most general way that I can think of and is a bit exaggerated. But that is how an empath can be described. The other extreme is the narcissist, but I won’t get into that.
Nonetheless, I am someone who gives a bit too much, and this does not allow me to receive or be open to receiving as much as I would like because I have accustomed myself to giving and do not know how to receive. However, I am learning.
I will relate this to love. The other day I realized that I need to change my perspective on giving so much and receive more love. What I didn’t recognize was that love can also be given to oneself and allow yourself to receive the love that you may give to others. I would consider this some type of cycle. The love you give to others, you give to yourself, and you learn how to receive it, and then you give it again; you get it. So, I put myself to that test, and let me tell you; it is quite fulfilling.
It is incredible how much we give to others compared to how much we give to ourselves, don’t you think?
The cycle I mentioned is similar to what I had written about treating yourself like your best friend. The way we treat our friends is in the best way possible. Why don’t we do that to ourselves? Why is it so easy for us to tell others how amazing they are, but not to ourselves?
I don’t think it is impossible because I did it, but it is hard at times. We have created this love-hate relationship with ourselves by comparing and judging who we are by wanting to become perfect, which limits us from not loving ourselves unconditionally.
I believe that falling in love with yourself is the act of allowing yourself to receive the love you give to yourself.
So, I invite you to open up to yourself, give yourself some love, and compliment who you are. Valentine’s Day is approaching, so why not take yourself out for a date?
Z.
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