I find it amazing how we get so used to learning how to deal with things on our own that we do one of three things the moment we have people close in our life. We step away from them because we assume that they are the ones that are making us feel a certain way, and we blame the way we are feeling on a person when it isn’t even their fault. We step away because we are scared that we will go through the same situation we went through in the past, so we simply leave without having to face our emotions. Or we decide to open up and talk about how we truly feel, and even if we feel like the other person is the one that is making us feel a certain way, we tell them in the rawest way possible. However, I think this revolves around the concept of being in the now.
We have a misconception of what it means to be in the now. We assume that being present means being in this amazing state of mind, in this state of flow, which makes us assume that we have to be in this constant high. But we don’t, and I think it is time we stop thinking that the moment we determine that we are entirely healed or have dealt with all our problems is the moment we have the biggest smile on our faces and this constant state of appreciation. Don’t get me wrong, it is amazing if you feel this way; I am just saying that we don’t always feel happy, we may not always be on a constant high, and we may be going through stuff because we were triggered, and that is completely fine. Being in the NOW (for me) means living in the now, literally. If you are feeling bad, sad, or angry, just feel those emotions and let them out. If you are happy, in love, appreciative and grateful, express it. But stop keeping your emotions hidden. Stop trying to act as if everything is okay. Because this fake it till you make it idea can only apply to so much, and we have to stop lying to ourselves and get to a point where we don’t even know what is and isn’t true, or how it is that we truly feel about certain things.
So, I invite you to start being honest with yourself more than anybody else. I suggest taking that moment of the day to feel whatever you have to feel. And also, take a moment to pause, breathe and take in all that you are feeling at that precise moment, and be fuking honest with yourself. If you want to cry and shed a tear or two, let yourself. If you want to jump out for joy and dance because you feel like it, just do it. Everybody has their shit that they are going through - when you’re up, they may be down; when they’re up, you may be down; you guys may all be feeling amazing, or maybe feeling like shit. But honestly, stop trying to always feel amazing, accept that you may be down at times and truly embrace the emotions that you feel.
Z.
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