When you grow up, you also learn to lose parts of your life and yourself. You start to perceive and understand things that weren’t as visible before. In this phase of your life, it’s normal to feel lost, because you are continually changing, and you start shaping your perspective. You can think that you are missing bits of who you are, but after all, it is because you are beginning to see WHO you really are. That is why it is so important to experiment and discover new things about yourself. Maybe you are not as interested in piano lessons as you thought, and your real passion is volleyball. You start learning things about yourself that you didn’t know before. You need to learn to risk whatever it takes to do what you feel passionate about, without caring about the “what will other people say?” Stop caring about whether you are the best at it or not, if people will accept it or not, if it is 100% helpful for the future or not. Remember that the only thing that matters is if that thing is making you happy.
At the same time, another normal but heartbreaking thing is losing the ones you loved. When you grow up, you take different paths than the people who accompany you through life. It is normal to lose friends. Some of them will outgrow the friendship, losing the bond that you had because they discover feelings for another person; maybe it was because you fought or simply grew out of the relationship. It is something that just happens, and don’t get me wrong; it sucks. It feels like you are cutting a part of your body because they meant all to you. You thought that they were going to be there forever, and sometimes it is hard to even imagine a life without them. Sadly, the only thing you can do is remember those moments, learn from all that you experienced together, and move on with your life. Never give up on a person who is worth it, but never walk through fire for a person who is no longer healthy. It is important to remember that sometimes, feelings change, and it's completely ok to see a person with different eyes. It is essential to learn to give yourself what YOU want and what makes YOU happy, without being afraid of hurting others. If you do everything with the fear of hurting others, the only one who will end up brokenhearted is yourself.
That makes you feel lonely, but let me tell you something, you are not alone. In some way, you can consider the relationships in your life like a train ride, where some people hop-on and stay longer, while others hop off when it’s their turn to go.
So yeah, you end up losing yourself, and it is pretty hard to find the person that you want to be and the person that you are… but when you do, all the pain and numbness fade away.
RZ
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