We go through life thinking that grief and mourning happen when someone passes away. However, I must say there are several ways to go through grief, such as losing a friendship, breaking up a relationship, or any loss. Unfortunately, we don’t consider it, so we don’t put that much importance into processing it. Not only do we not accept that we have lost something, but not accepting it makes it harder to let go and move on.
I’ll tell you a story of mine that made me realize that when we lose someone that was in our life, like a friend or even a simple crush, it can be similar, but not the same when someone passed away. During this quarantine, I have realized who my true friends are and who was just present in my life. I may say this as many times as necessary, but I am genuinely grateful for the lessons that I have been taught and the experience and memories they have left me. Recently, I have gone on thinking about what true friendship means, the importance of people in our life, and the presence they act upon in my day-to-day life, but then again, some have gone on and parted ways. I have faced the loss of friends these past months, and it isn’t precisely that I have pushed them away, nor them from me.
Nonetheless, losing a friend, even if it was merely parting ways and distancing ourselves, it hurts. Something that made me have an aha! moment was realizing that accepting the loss is one of the most important ways to let go and move on. And to understand that many people will come and go from our lives, it is the acceptance that allows us to obtain new friendships, relationships and other people to come into our lives. As my mom says it: “People that come into our lives can relate to a train ride. Some people are on for the long ride, some people are on for just a few stops, and some people get back on at a different check-point.” When we realize that we are alone and the people that come into our lives will leave at any time, we have to accept it and let go, live in the present and enjoy the moment so that when we look back, we remember the good times and have a moment of nostalgia. Let us not forget that it is hard to go through grief and mourn. We have to have our process to get back on track. We have to embrace those emotions, embrace those feelings and go on through life.
Z.
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