Disclaimer: I will try to be humbly honest when writing this article and mean no harm to anyone.
First of all, what does it mean to be fake? Well, I believe it is not to be authentic. By authentic, I mean not to be yourself. For instance, have you ever had someone in your life that treats you one way when you are alone and completely different when you are in a group? Or maybe when you are talking with someone, they start to speak badly about someone else and make comparisons just to make themselves look better? Perhaps even when someone only focuses on the superficial, materialistic aspect of things? Well, all of these things may or may not revolve around fakeness. Now, I know this word I am using may be extreme, but I can’t find another way to describe it.
But fakeness is an act people like to take part in to get the validation of others because they are too afraid of being themselves and not being accepted for it. Okay, that’s a bit harsh. But I will be honest with you, I, in the past, acted at times in such a way for the sake of seeking validation. I acted superficially because it was so hard for me to accept who I was, so I needed to act as someone other than myself to feel that I could be someone, anybody.
After I realized that it didn’t get me anywhere, I started being myself, and at that moment, I realized how many people were acting as something other than themselves. It felt as if superficiality was some sort of personality trait and something we sought because we didn’t want to get that attachment, but that’s another topic.
However, when it comes to fakeness, I believe we need to ask ourselves if we are ourselves or something we want others to see (like a mask). Another thing I think we should ask ourselves is “who am I?” and if we don’t know who we are, how have we been acting this whole time? My list of questions can go on, but I believe that fakeness is based on what we seek from others and what we want to obtain or what we want our end to be after acting or being a certain way.
So, as usual, I invite you to start asking yourself who you are and ask yourself if the people you are surrounding yourself with are superficial or genuine and if you act the same way as them, and that is why you get that response.
Z.
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