As we are in different situations every day, every moment, and every second, some stand out more than others. Why? I once read that a situation is an emotion, a feeling, and a sensation, leading to a memory. That memory is our new trigger to similar situations; what we fear, what we love, or our new source of happiness. However, that memory and the emotion we relate to can be changed by having a new perspective or a different perspective on how you would react. I think that can also be a sign of maturity…
Now, let me relate it to a specific situation. I was at a party and was dancing and talking with this guy, having a good time. I actually knew this guy for quite some time, and we ended up going to a more private place. Before I knew it, we were kissing. I, for some reason, got this trigger instinct and wanted to leave, the lights were off, and it turned out the door was locked. I turned on my flashlight and looked around the room; it was small and had a stairwell that led to who knows where. I then asked him to unlock the door because I wanted to leave, and he couldn’t. Nonetheless, he wanted to take advantage of the situation we were in. He started touching me and even grabbed my hand to put it on his privates. I immediately removed it, pushed him, and decided to go down that stairwell to leave the room. There was another door, but it was locked as well, but it did have a lock that could be moved, and so I giggled it and was able to open the door and leave. I wanted to cry and hug someone, but everybody was in their world; even if I tried explaining it to a friend, nobody knew what had just happened. I sat down and had to call my dad to pick me up because there was no other way to leave the house where the party was taking place. The moment that my dad arrived, I didn’t even say goodbye to anybody and left.
So, as you might be thinking, this is quite a traumatic experience, and I must be in shock and terrified of men. On the contrary, I was in shock at first, but I decided to take the other route, learn from it, and relate the emotion I choose to this experience. In this case, I decided: power, strength, courage, bravery, and luck. I realized that some experiences, no matter how powerful they are, can leave a mark in our lives. If we start finding positive outcomes rather than negative ones, we will feel more secure and confident about ourselves. And as my cousin said once, an experience will be an experience, no matter where you are or who you are with, the outcome that you choose to have is up to you, and that will be what you remember of it.
Z.
Dedicated to all of those who have been in a traumatic experience... we are in this together and you are not alone.
If you have been in a situation as mentioned above
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