We tend to focus on other people’s problems to avoid our own. Why? Because it is easier to focus on other people than ourselves because we sometimes do not want to face what is happening. As a result, we put this image out into the world, portraying a perfect and happy life, when, in reality, it may not even be sunshine and rainbows. So, if we want to stop putting on a mask to please other people, we have to start working and focusing on ourselves. Even if it may be hard to go back to our past to find the root of our problems, it will benefit you in the long-term and will not leave such a prominent scar that would be a lot harder to heal afterwards.
A common and ordinary situation that we may regularly encounter when dealing with other people’s problems is our parents. This particular situation tends to drain us emotionally because their issues are passed onto us unconsciously and unintentionally. This action can also relate to the energy vampire when parents or people, in general, suck up all your good energy to have it for themselves (it sounds strange, I know, but if you think about it, it’s true). I mean, picture yourself in a room with people who give bad vibes or feel sad and have negative emotions. You suddenly get that similar feeling because you unintentionally suck up their negative energy. The best way to simplify this example is to represent two glasses connected at the bottom with a tube controlled by a valve or a manometer. You are in control of what side you want to fill up. The valve allows the liquids to pass from one glass to another. People exchange energy all the time, positive and negative. With the image I gave previously of you in the room with somebody else, it is literally like putting two different coloured liquids on each side and resulting in an exchange of colours by the end of the experiment. One colour ends up on the other side, and vice-versa.
Unfortunately, the people who are most affected by this are the sensitive ones. And I am not saying you should become cold and insensitive, but you have to start putting limits and allowing people to feel what they have to feel on their own while keeping your emotions intact.
Sadly, you will be affected by others’ emotions several times throughout your life. But the best way to deal with this is to focus on yourself (which is not selfish) and deal with your problems before dealing with other people’s issues. You have to put them aside for a while and give yourself a self-care sesh.
Z.
Comments