You know when something is in front of you, but you can’t see it? Or maybe you know it is there but don’t realize it is?
Many things happened these past weeks that made me question things and see if what I am living is really the way that I want to live. Or it is the way others want me to live, and I have accustomed myself to believing that I must live a certain way to feel fulfilled. Okay, that was a mouthful. My point is that we can go through situations in life and not realize that they may have affected us in a certain way because we just consider them normal or not such a big deal. I feel like we get used to normalizing things just because we go through them regularly. It isn’t to question our normality - because that is a different topic to discuss, and I would go into a rabbit hole - but to question if your sense of normality is truly normal in relation to a definition or in the sense of comfort and habit. Maybe we start creating a pattern and don’t see a difference until we step away for a moment or two and go back to it. I think when a pattern is broken (or maybe questioned), we start to change the way we are living or seeing things.
But when I think about this, I think about different scenarios, such as friendships, relationships, environments, or even thinking patterns of how we react to things. When I talk about relationships or friendships, it can be about the distance that creates a separation or a closeness. Or when we begin to see growth in ourselves, we expect the other person to grow as well. I don’t exactly mean that they only grow in experience, but maybe maturity, habits, or just their way of being. Maybe, it is that we don’t realize how the relationship is until there is a separation and one gets back to it that one starts questioning if it is a healthy relationship in itself. When I talk about environments, I refer to the place you are in, and the groups of people you surround yourself with. Because I believe that the environment that we all should be in allows us to grow, be the best version of ourselves and simply feel comfortable. Or maybe the thinking patterns we have may get to a point where they are simply overwhelming, and it becomes a pattern depending on the situation we are faced with. If you are an overthinker (like me), it is common for us to go on and on about situations or create a domino effect that leads to something completely different from what we started with. I believe these are all different ways of seeing patterns and affect us in several ways.
We all eventually create patterns that may be healthy, fulfilling, draining or overwhelming. Sometimes to realize if these patterns are good or bad, we need to step away for a second or two and observe what is happening. If you see that you enjoy it, go on with it, but if you don’t, do you want to go on with it? Do you want to change the way you do things? I can’t tell you exactly how to change because you know how. But I can invite you to look at things differently, question them every now and then, and simply allow your mind to wander.
Z.
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