Well, I am a bold person. I have been told this many times by now, and I have concluded that boldness is just honesty without a filter (even though I do hold back sometimes). I used to be afraid of speaking my mind so openly and just being true to who I was. But the moment I decided that it was the time to be myself and stop feeling ashamed of who I was, I gained the confidence to be open and talk to people. It was mainly because I thought I would want people to be like that with me. However, not everybody is, which is sometimes frustrating because you feel like sometimes people are afraid to hurt you. Regardless of the hurt one may cause with honesty, it is better than feeling the suspense of a long-lasting lie.
But we have become so used to this false reality of literally not knowing what is and isn’t true (i.e. social media) that we have brought that into our lives, our reality, which can significantly impact our relationships. For instance, we are not being honest about emotions because we are so used to posting stories that are only highlights of our lives and not the struggles or obstacles we may go through. And I think that we have become ashamed of those obstacles we have gone through, but we don’t consider how we have been able to overcome them. It is as if we feel like we will be judged because we don’t have that highlighted story on our feed, and we simply want to hide away and only show the surface, which can be the mask we offer to the world. And I have talked about masks before, the ones we use to not show our true colours out of fear of being judged, but then again, why are we afraid of being ourselves? Okay, I am losing myself in my thoughts…
But back to the topic, when it comes to boldness, it is just being you and being authentic—being able to be yourself without the fear of what someone might say about you. Because you know what? There will always be someone judging you, giving critical opinions, compliments, really anything, but it’s up to you to decide what you want to listen to. So I invite you to let go of that fear and of hiding behind a mask and simply stay true to yourself. The people who will accept you for who you are are the people who are meant to be in your life without needing to force yourself to be someone else. So just be you.
Z.
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