I believe there are two sides to silence when we are with someone. We either feel awkward, don’t know what or are thinking about what the other person is feeling or might be feeling. However, the other side to silence is the comfort, the pause and serenity when you don’t mind anything else that is going on but the present.
I think that we get a feeling of who we are comfortable with whenever we are in silence with them. I feel as though I started to realize its impact on relationships or friendships. Making myself be silent for just a second and seeing how else I would react. Whether I would ask questions to try and keep the conversation going and think that is what the other person wants to hear, or if I would not really care and just let the conversation flow. Now, I don’t mean “not really care” in a wrong way; it’s the pause that makes you realize if you appreciate the presence of the other person as they are in that moment or if you are expecting something from them in return. And going back to another article of mine where I talk about expectations, it is removing the expectations we have of things and others that we start being present and mindful of what we are living.
I also feel that silence is a way to connect with your gut feeling or intuition. It is like a pause to hear your thoughts, question things, and realize how you feel. And I think if we give ourselves that opportunity to pause when we are with someone, it is also the moment we realize how we think of them. Do you feel awkward? Do you feel comfortable? Does their presence make you anxious, sad, or happy? Just take that pause. The worst that can happen is a few seconds fly by, and you get back to whatever you are doing.
Z.
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